Working safely – what you can do before a meeting

Most meetings go well. Still, it pays to clear a few things up beforehand – especially with new clients. These are the tips sex workers most often give each other.

Before the meeting

• Bookings only: fix the time and duration in advance. Clients who pressure you (“right now”) are harder to read.
• Give the address late: only the district first, the exact address after you accept.
• Rules in writing: settle price, services and limits beforehand – then there's no discussion at the meeting.
• Take warning signs seriously: haggling over rules you stated clearly, insults, constantly changing numbers.
• Gut feeling: if something feels wrong, cancel.

On the day

• Trusted person: send a friend or colleague when and where your booking is – and check in afterwards.
• Phone charged and within reach.
• Money first: many collect at the start, not at the end.
• Know the way out: for outcalls and hotels, know how you get out.

Protect your privacy

Work with a separate number instead of your personal one. On Telegram you can hide your number. More: Second number for work and Hide your Telegram number.

What buhu takes over

• Gives only the district first – the address only after you accept.
• Sends new clients your rules first.
• Optionally, new clients buy pictures online before the first meeting – those who pay are serious.
• You see every request in advance and decide yourself: yes or no.

In Germany, specialist counselling centres for sex work and the professional association BesD offer advice and support.